How can I get the modeller to load the modified database

I have just modified my database. I was expecting it to be able to read in the changes, or even the whole database again..

I didn't find any menu options. And server.dgp does not store the database-name.

I have created a new project, but this means that I have to modify the mappings every time.

What am I missing?

That's how it is. If you modify the database "outside" from Data Modeler, you will have to reimport the database into a new project.