It is not really about the -FF parameter (which is a new feature in trunk that allows to compile the resources directly, and it is a time saver, but could be avoided), but anonymous methods, which we really need to be able to compile the 1 million+ lines of FlexCel in FPC.
The idea is that once anonymous methods get into a stable release, we will support them officially. But they are still not in stable, so we still are at experimental support.
If you look at the last page of the link I mentioned: Feature announcement: Function References and Anonymous Functions you'll see they are supposed to be enabled in FPC 3.4.
If you want to use FlexCel with FPC, you sadly need to get "trunk" fpc with fpc deluxe (as mentioned in the flexcel docs), or at least a version that has anonymous methods enabled (and -FF would be a plus, but that can be fixed easily).
If you can't use fpc trunk (which I can understand), and you don't have any other use for FlexCel with Delphi, please write to me to adrian@tmssoftware.com and we'll send you a refund for your purchase. We might actually end up removing FPC support completely if we can't get a stable fpc release with anonymous methods, it is just too much work to try to support an always changing trunk version.